With their Sabbath garments for the Church. Source: ‘Hellenic Stories of
Vancouver’ - FB group created by librarian Sophia Karasouli-Milobar in order
to promote the joint Vancouver Public Library and Hellenic Community of
Vancouver project ‘
Hellenic Stories of Vancouver’. The photo belongs to Mando Christodoulou.
Inferiority complex
A man describes the conflicts between parents and children and highlights that
the children felt inferior for their parents due to their class identity.
RES.: For what reason you think young people are no
longer going? [referring to the Greek associations]
P.Μ.: That… Do some research on this. There have been
many researches. Because… Because the parents’ relations with the… At least
the Greek children won’t be constipated. From one side their parents told them
“Learn the letters”. They had the… that which says “The illiterate person is
like an uncarved piece of wood”. But at the same time the children saw that
their parents were illiterate. They would tell them to become, to go to school
and so on, but they were illiterate, therefore they would say “Alright”. The
children had complexes, I think so from my own experiences. They didn’t want
to go to the bus alongside their mother, they didn’t go, they were embarrassed
because their mother was working as a cleaner, I guess. She was working as a
cleaner, whatever. Eh… it was mostly this… the complexes they carried. Then,
there are also the flaws, the egotism which the Greeks have. They couldn’t
realize that the children are growing up, they’re turning into another
society, they have other habits. They can’t understand that you can’t tell
your child what to do all the time. You can’t tell your child,
twenty-twenty-two years old, “Don’t speak, you’re little!”. We, the Greeks,
have this flaw, to think that children are children, therefore many children
who entered the associations became interested in… the treatment of the older
people… […] the older people that… to show that they are someone, something,
whatever. It’s not possible for young children to tolerate illiterate people
telling them, “You should go to university” and to say “Don’t speak, you are
little”. Eh, you’re going to say it once, twice, he’s going to tell you “Shut
up old man, because […]”. Eh, they were leaving. They didn’t attract them.
Then there’s the relationship which the parents had with the children. I told
you, it was constipated and […]. They didn’t want to go where their parents
went, they felt that the environment was of a low level, to put it like this.
They avoided it. They didn’t attract the children into the associations,
unfortunately.